Hi guys! This is going to be a long rant, so buckle up, we’re going on a ride!
I recently watched a video, or should I say, a Ted Talk by the model Cameron Russell. This video was true in every sense, and got me thinking . So I decided to do a blog post on this. Let’s start!
You’ve probably heard a lot of people saying “Look’s don’t matter, it’s personality that matters.” And yes, it’s true. Looks don’t define you, and will never define you. Never should you feel that you are worthless because of the way you look.
In the video, Cameron Russell said that “models are probably the most insecure women on the planet.” Why? Because as much as being told you are beautiful raises your self esteem, being told that you’ve put on the slightest bit of weight, or have a pimple on your face brings your self esteem plummeting to the ground.
As teenage girls, we’re already trying to figure ourselves out. We want to look good. We want compliments. We want people to turn around and stare when we walk into a room. We want a glamorous life, and constantly compare ourselves to the seemingly perfect women on magazine covers. But do the ‘magazine ladies’ really look like that?
Cameron answered a very important question on the talk. Do they retouch all the photos after a photo shoot? She said that yes, they did. But that was only half the story. The truth is, all people are the same. The people and girls you see on magazine covers, that’s not the real them. Cameron even bought out photos of her behind the screen, and compared them with the ones on magazines.
So at this point, while researching this topic, I found a psychological fact. That it takes only seven seconds to form an impression of somebody. Just the first seven seconds. You can’t possibly talk to someone and form a thorough impression of someone in just seven seconds. So the next conclusion we come to is looks. When a person sees you for the first time, their brain brands you depending on whether they think you are ‘pretty’ or ‘ugly’. I feel like giving a loonnng lecture to the person who deemed it appropriate to use the word ‘ugly’ on human beings. It’s use has led to several things, self harm and depression just a few. So if your brain brands a person on being ugly, or good looking, you’ll automatically decide whether they are someone who you want to talk to or not, right? Wrong.
While the first seven seconds are crucial to develop a first impression, SO IS THEIR BEHAVIOR AND PERSONALITY!! Talk to someone before you judge them, people! Or better, don’t judge them at all! Every person is different, and has no right to be judged by society.
I came across another video, where girls aged 6-18 years old talked about body image. Young girls, as young as 10, said that they didn’t feel beautiful because they weren’t as skinny as their friends! That is the LAST thing a 10 year old needs on their mind. At their age, they should be running around, carefree, not giving a damn about what people think. It used to be like that. It’s SUPPOSED to be like that!
Those are words of wisdom. If our society wasn’t as judgmental as it is today, would anybody feel insecure in their body? No. If people weren’t branded “ugly”, would anyone feel like they are worthless? No. If everyone was just that little bit kinder, would everyone love themselves like they should? Yes.
See, no one gave anybody a definition of beauty. Beauty is in people’s own eyes. To me, beauty is when someone is kind, caring and friendly. It is when that person helps everybody regardless of who they are and what they look like. To me, personality defines beauty.
At least now, models aren’t being chosen on their looks or ethnicity. We are slowly beginning to open our judgmental minds, and we are looking for fresh faces. Ones with smiles that could light up a city. The next time someone comments on how you look, DON”T GIVE A DAMN. Because seriously. Haters gonna hate. Players gonna play. Heart breakers gonna break (yes, it’s all Taylor Swift). So what you gotta do is Shake It Off!
For anyone of you who watched the video of Cameron Russell’s Ted Talk and are thinking, “Well, easy for her to talk about looks, she’s pretty!” That’s just what you guys think. You guys might think she’s pretty. Others might think she ain’t. You know why I find Cameron Russell beautiful? It’s because she’s standing up for what she believes in, and exposing the harsh realities of modelling, even though that could make her lose modelling jobs.
Finally, if you guys think of me as a hypocrite for saying how looks aren’t important and then posting about makeup, well I’m gonna Shake It Off. Because makeup makes me feel happy, it is an art, and how much makeup you ever put on, I know that it can never change the real you.
Feel comfortable in you own body, because it’s the only one you have!
Thanks for letting me rant/vent, guys. 😅
What did you think about today’s post? Did you agree with my point of view? Is there anything you’d like to share about this topic?
Thank you so much for reading, and see you in my next post! Ta-ta, and stay safe!